Understanding The Filipino Dating Scene
In the Philippines, dating scenes may not be necessarily similar to its equivalent in other countries; however its difference is not that huge. If you’ve never ever dated a Filipino or is new to the Filipino dating scene but can’t seem to have a lot of luck then you might need some guidance.
For foreigners who are dating a Filipino, or for Filipinos trying to maintain a long distance relationship with another Filipino, here are a few tips:
Honesty is the key. Long distance relationships are hard to manage since you’re far from each other. If you’re truly serious about entering into a relationship, you should be fully committed to her. It is much more difficult to be trusted if you are caught, even once, in a lie
- Linked to honesty is trust. A fair amount of it is needed for any relationship to work, even more so in a long distance relationship, where you cannot verify a lot of rumors to be true, only take your partner’s word for it. Filipinos generally tend to be possessive or jealous to a point, even to a fault. Fortunately, if you are truly worth trusting, there will be little reason to be jealous.
- Don’t be afraid to verbally express how you feel about your partner. A long distance relationship lacks the frequent physical intimacy in a regular relationship, so a lot more has to be verbalized to provide a more secure foundation. Keep in touch open and don’t break the connection. Regular communication can strengthen your bond, the less of it you have, the bigger the chance of drifting apart.
For those who are dating the regular way, here are a few pointers.
For those who are dating the regular way, here are a few pointers. - Respect each other. Regardless what race, color or beliefs you had. It is not uncommon in the Filipino dating scene to have two very seemingly different people, in terms of age, race, or religion, together. If you are of different races, you will both have individual, culturally-based beliefs and values that do not always align. You might even be of different religions. However this is not the basis why relationship cannot work. You don’t need to believe in the same thing your partner believed and you don’t even have to pretend to like the same things he/she likes. Be yourself and take control of what you want, need or like.
- Listen and share in equal portions. It is unbearable to date a person who never listens, just talks incessantly and mostly about himself. At the same time, a relationship won’t work if all you do is to listen without sharing part of yourself- it will seem like you don’t trust your partner enough. Also, the sharing of thoughts and ideas form a bond. You will both learn from each other in this way, and learn how to support and empathize.
- Be spontaneous. Whether it is your first, or your fifty-first date, spontaneity adds spice. Try new things together and laugh at each other’s botched-up attempts. Which leads to another pointer- don’t be afraid to make mistakes and laugh at them- a rule not just for dating, but for life in general.
- Avoid bringing up your ex, especially on the first date. That will just show your date that you have not completely moved on, and may just be on the rebound. Also, nobody likes being compared. Don’t fault your date for being your ex’s polar opposite, that alone may be a good reason to be with him or her.
- Bringing up ex in conversations especially on your first date is a no-no. this will leave an impression to your date that you have not moved on from your previous relationship and that she might just be a rebound. Never compare your current date to your ex, nobody likes to be compare it’s rude to compare someone to others. -Never use past mistakes as fuel for a fight, and never, never nag on about it.
Don’t be discouraged if your first date doesn’t work. Filipino dating scene is a process to learn if you’re new into it. Just keep on dating someone and eventually you’ll find that someone. Hang in there.